Respectful Parenting

How to be the best parent you can be by connecting with your child and holding your boundaries respectfully.
Browse this section for inspiration if you're struggling with some unwanted behaviours.

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Why won't my kids calm down?!

Why won't my kids calm down?!

You might need to hear this today ⬇️Real talk: I often find my kids' behaviour triggering. The noise of shouting and whinging and crying can feel all too much for...
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5 Steps to Help your Child having a hard time

5 Steps to Help your Child having a hard time

The secret to staying calm ⬇️It starts with remembering that your child having big feelings is totally normal. It's developmentally appropriate. They're not meant to act like adults and forcing...
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Sunday Chaos

Sunday Chaos

Nothing relaxing about it.A reminder that gentle, respectful parenting isn't about training kids to be perfect little regulated angels. My kids were all over the shop today.Gentle and respectful parenting...
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Sharing my chaotic evening of parenting

Sharing my chaotic evening of parenting

Hats off to solo parents.Bedtime can be SOOOO triggering. All you want is for everyone to calm down and go to sleep so you can finally have some time to...
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Avoid tantrums at the park

Avoid tantrums at the park

This works 👇Preschoolers don’t understand time. “5 more minutes” means nothing when you have no concept of a minute, so no wonder kids get frustrated when suddenly they’re pulled from...
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Whats the best thing to say when your kid is having a tantrum

Whats the best thing to say when your kid is having a tantrum

Hear me out ⬇️Kids have tantrums. They're developmentally appropriate - it's a big build up of feelings and emotions that they don't know how to process and it all comes...
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Important phrases our kids need to hear

Important phrases our kids need to hear

Say what you would have wanted to hear.We have such a HUGE impact on how our children feel about themselves as they grow. How we speak to them now directly...
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Understanding your sensitive child's behaviour

Understanding your sensitive child's behaviour

How to help⬇️It's time to REFRAME your thinking.Often, the behaviours of highly sensitive children are labelled as 'difficult' - as if they do everything on purpose and with manipulation in...
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What to do when your child won't stop misbehaving

What to do when your child won't stop misbehaving

This really works ⬇️We've all fallen into this pattern:Our kids are constantly pushing our buttons by misbehaving and arguing and our tone becomes clipped and annoyed. We snap more, we...
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Parental Preference

Parental Preference

We're in this stage.It's tiring but it'll pass. Check out the strategies here and head to the Zazi hub at zazi.co.nz to easily search all of my posts on behaviour,...
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Is this the reason your preschooler is misbehaving?

Is this the reason your preschooler is misbehaving?

What to do?New siblings are a huge change for our preschoolers which cannot be underestimated. If you've seen a big shift in your child's behaviour and you're wondering if it...
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Unwanting Parenting Advice from Relatives at Christmas

Unwanting Parenting Advice from Relatives at Christmas

Times change.We wear seatbelts now. They took the cocaine out of coca cola. Spanking was made illegal. We don't give infants alcohol.What seemed normal and acceptable to previous generations is...
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Christmas Affirmations for Parents

Christmas Affirmations for Parents

You've got this.Christmas is wonderful but it's SO different from a typical day - we HAVE to expect some difficult behaviours.Whilst adults love the anticipation of a big event, all...
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A mistake I made as a first-time parent

A mistake I made as a first-time parent

We assure our preschoolers in so many ways that we’ll always be there for them, so to suddenly disappear on them can be really frightening. Share this one with your...
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Holly Jolly Christmas

Holly Jolly Christmas

Is it cute?Look nobody wants their kids to be afraid of Santa. ESPECIALLY if you've queued for hours for that cute insta-worthy holiday photo. But the BEST way to support...
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Can't control our kids but we can manage their environment and control ourselves

Can't control our kids but we can manage their environment and control ourselves

It all went wrong.We truly can't control our kids.We CAN control ourselves and we CAN manage the environment.I'm NOT saying we should take away all of a child's accountability for...
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The Parenting Trap we all fall in to

The Parenting Trap we all fall in to

Play the long game.👌Keep your responses short. You don't even have to say anything at the start (or if you're struggling to regulate yourself) - just stay quiet and be...
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Should we punish a child when they have a tantrum?

Should we punish a child when they have a tantrum?

Expect tantrums.We can't expect children to have the self control and executive functioning skills to stop and think "hang on, last time I had a tantrum it didn't feel fun...
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What to do when you're triggered by your child's behaviour

What to do when you're triggered by your child's behaviour

You're not alone.It's no mean feat coping with a child's many outbursts and tantrums. Remember their brains are very underdeveloped and they need to be taught how to manage their...
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We need to be kinder to kids (and each other)

We need to be kinder to kids (and each other)

Let's be kind.We cant be in each other's brains so we have no idea how someone else is coping.What might look like a child being very ""naughty" is most often...
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