Respectful Parenting

How to be the best parent you can be by connecting with your child and holding your boundaries respectfully.
Browse this section for inspiration if you're struggling with some unwanted behaviours.

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Why Saying "I won't let you do that" always works for unwanted behaviour

Why Saying "I won't let you do that" always works for unwanted behaviour

It can't fail, because we won't let it fail.Children need limits. Heaps of them. Almost constantly throughout the day. But that doesn't mean we have to remind them of those...
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Say ALL the Kind Things

Say ALL the Kind Things

Things I try to say to my children every day: I’m so proud of you. I love you just the way you are. I wouldn’t change anything about you. You...
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Help! My Baby keeps pulling my hair!

Help! My Baby keeps pulling my hair!

Because saying 'ow' makes it worse!There's ALWAYS a respectful way to manage your child's behaviour and help them to do something different. A baby or toddler, with an underdeveloped brain,...
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Are you making your Child's Behaviour Worse?

Are you making your Child's Behaviour Worse?

Hard truth. Often, our children only get our attention when they're misbehaving.We're tired and stressed and sometimes just over parenting, so when our children are quiet and engaging in play,...
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Help Your Child to Calm Down with a Camp

Help Your Child to Calm Down with a Camp

Can you remember your camp/fort building skills?! I'm sure you can. Dig them up again to help your little one calm down. My kids were so disregulated this evening. They...
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Misplaces Mum-Guilt

Misplaces Mum-Guilt

Do they actually care?Or are you just beating yourself up??Go easy on yourself. When I gave birth to my second child I was so upset about losing time with my...
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When Your Child is Losing It

When Your Child is Losing It

All behaviour is communication. More often than not, our children are communicating that they need our HELP.We've had years of practice coping with our emotions and impulses and STILL we...
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Why is my Toddler using a Baby Voice all the time?

Why is my Toddler using a Baby Voice all the time?

Your toddler is being a baby.Why is it so triggering?!They're too old to be talking like this now and it's frustrating - you want them to talk normally and use...
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Reminder: There's no such thing as naughty

Reminder: There's no such thing as naughty

I'm not joking.Labelling kids as 'naughty' can make their little minds take that word on as a personality trait. "Wow - mum thinks I'm naughty so I must be. I'm...
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How to Reduce Power Struggles

How to Reduce Power Struggles

Children challenge us when they feel powerless.And it's fair enough. If our little ones were to spend a day recording us, we'd be shocked with the amount of directions they...
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Stop Saying "Use Your Words" (and say this instead)

Stop Saying "Use Your Words" (and say this instead)

It's frustrating, I get it. Your smart and eloquent little person is suddenly whinging, misbehaving and lashing out and you're thinking "JUST USE YOUR WORDS!!". I think it every day....
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Why does my Child behave better for other People

Why does my Child behave better for other People

If your child is losing it in front of you but an angel with their grandparents - fear not. Attachment theory tells us that when kids are comfortable to let...
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Why I Do What I Do

Why I Do What I Do

Yesterday I saw a little boy locked outside and screaming and banging at the door to be let back in. He couldn’t have been older than maybe two and half...
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Why saying "Don't Cry" can be Harmful (and what to say instead)

Why saying "Don't Cry" can be Harmful (and what to say instead)

Remember: it's not our job to stop our kids from crying. It's ok to cry. It's our job to show them that we can cope with any and every emotion...
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Stop & Think Before You Say No

Stop & Think Before You Say No

Being an adult is boring. Our children can’t act like adults, nor should they want to. Often, when we tell kids ‘no’ or ‘stop’, we’re trying to make them act...
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Easy Activities to Help Your Child to Regulate Anger

Easy Activities to Help Your Child to Regulate Anger

When our kids are angry, their brain's are out of control. They need us to be the calm and help them to find their calm.The thing is, when they're upset,...
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Respectful Parenting isn't 'Soft', Its Science

Respectful Parenting isn't 'Soft', Its Science

You didn't deserve to be shouted at as a child. Your family didn't know better and that was the way things were done. There's new science now - we know...
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Help! My Toddler Won't Stop Throwing Things

Help! My Toddler Won't Stop Throwing Things

If they have the urge to throw then they need to throw. Give them something you’re happy for them to throw, and you’ll find your battling with your toddler much...
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How to get Your Child to Listen to You Without Resorting to Shouting

How to get Your Child to Listen to You Without Resorting to Shouting

It's all about how you say it!Respectful parenting always works, it's just about being firm, kind and holding your boundaries.It can be a hard pill to swallow, but children don't...
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Child with Big Behaviours

Child with Big Behaviours

You don't want to lose control and get angry with your child. It doesn't feel good inside. You're just tired, overwhelmed and don't know what else to do.Your child doesn't...
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