It's all about how you say it!
Respectful parenting always works, it's just about being firm, kind and holding your boundaries.
It can be a hard pill to swallow, but children don't need to suffer in order to learn. They don't need to be shouted at, embarrassed, scared, or physically hurt in order to learn what is right and wrong. They just need you to model what is right and wrong and firmly hold boundaries. That can be hard for adults to process, and sometimes we have to start by first embracing the fact that WE didn't need to suffer emotionally or physically in order to learn. It starts with us healing our inner-child and striving to break that cycle.
Start thinking about some common times you have to raise your voice with your child and work out how you could rephrase it to say what they SHOULD be doing instead of what they shouldn't. Plan in your head how you might step in and enforce the boundary before you feel triggered or the behaviour gets worse. Prevention is always better than reaction.
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