Children DO what they SEE.

Children need to SEE us regulate our own emotions and respond to them respectfully and calmly before they learn what to DO and can successfully regulate themselves.

If you shout - they will shout. It's as easy as that.

Remember - this isn't an overnight lesson. Self regulation takes years so it's worth bring consistent and supportive, not only to help them in their regulation journey but also to protect your relationship.

If you think back to the teachers you remember loving and respecting, they were never the ones who screamed at you and belittled you. They're always the ones who were kind and who listened and made you feel safe. They respected you. Respect teaches respect. Fear does not teach respect.

More often than not, we adults were not taught to regulate by our own parents. We were often shouted at. So go easy on yourself in this learning journey. You can only do your best.