Sharing isn’t caring.

Your child can’t share and that’s okay. It’s developmentally appropriate for our under five year olds to find it difficult to give away the thing that they’re really enjoying.

Their brains aren’t developed to think from someone else’s perspective about how they might be feeling.

So of course, they’re not going to give away the toy that they’re really enjoying. Also we don’t do that.

We don’t suddenly give our phones away to the next door neighbour. We’re not mid magazine and then just handing it over to our partners because they want it all of a sudden.

Sharing in fact isn’t all that caring. We’re essentially telling our children to give away the thing that they’re enjoying and that’s not fair. Here are some things that you can say instead:

A child that isn’t scaring, isn’t a bad child. Reset your expectations. You’re got this.

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