When our kids are struggling, the last thing they want to do is answer a question. They probably want to scream “of course I want some help!!”. A great way of teaching them how to ask for themselves (and how to say anything, really) is to model it AS IF YOU ARE THEM.
So when they’re struggling to open their lunch box, say “help me” in a high pitched voice as if you are being them. Repeat it if you can. Then help straight away. Don’t expect them to imitate you- they’ll say it when they’re ready.
This will be EVEN MORE powerful if typically you just jump in and help them without saying anything. Modelling is magic!
Tag a parent with a frustrated toddler!!