Every behaviour is a communication.
My son doesn’t WANT to hurt his sister. He loves her. But he’s 3, his brain is underdeveloped and he doesn’t have the capacity like we do to manage his emotions and impulses. It’s important we don’t view these behaviours as ‘naughty’ (I always say there’s no such thing as naughty) and instead see them as a cry for help.
“Help me - I’m overcome with emotion and don’t know what to do with it”.
When we respond with grace and with love and understanding, our children don’t see themselves as being a problem or being ‘bad’.
We model for them every day how to regulate these big feelings by regulating our own big feelings.
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