Co-regulation (being the calm they need to see) is the FASTEST and BEST way to support our little one's behaviour.
If we loose our cool, we only add to their discomfort and it's more likely that the misbehaviour continues or worsens.
If you're stuck in a spiral of them misbehaving and you shouting, it's not too late to make a change. Try this.
❤️ Acknowledge their feelings. "You are frustrated"
❤️ Hold the boundary:"but I won't let you throw your toys"
❤️ Physically hold the boundary: *stay close by, gently prevent them from throwing things*.
❤️ Guess what's making them act like this. "I think you're hangry! I'm going to give you some of my cooking ingredients to nibble lime a little mouse!"
❤️ Stay calm and warm and ready to give them a cuddle when they're ready.
I promise you this is going to improve your child's behaviour, your opinion of your child and your relationship with them.
They TRULY don't want to misbehave. They just have under developed brains that can't do this alone. You've got this.
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